Hello and Happy Monday,
Ishvara Pranidhara has been our focus this month, surrender to the divine. This last Niyama (personal practice) has been particularly difficult for me to explain. Essentially what is asked of us is to look beyond ourselves to find a sense of connectedness with others. In addition, can we dedicate our actions to benefit all beings and not just ourselves or our circle? Remembering that life is always evolving and that we are much stronger together than we are alone.
We see life through our lens all the time if we aren't aware. What I mean by that is, it is our natural default to see or feel things from our perspective all the time. Our internal thoughts impact us, the external world impacts us, our past, our mood, sounds, smells, these all play a role in how we interpret things. When we find friends who interpret the world in the same way, they become our circle. We love being with others who agree with us, who validate us, who are like us. Also known as our comfort zone. We love these people, we have fun with these people and we feel connected with these people.
Have you ever met someone who rubs you the wrong way? Who you don't see eye to eye with? Who spouts out opinions that seem irrational or just crazy? Is this their problem? I know in the past I would have thought that. But all the issues, stem from us. I believe it is our unwillingness to change our lens and our resistance to sitting in discomfort. I'm not saying we can see eye to eye with every single person in this world, but I am saying that we can learn a lot more about ourselves and how we connect with others when we can take the onus that the problems we face with others are on us. It's a hard one to remember. I would love to blame others for being passive-aggressive, bitter, spiteful, or even ignorant, but these are all stories that I have created. I have no idea where anyone else is coming from. We know this though, we all know the saying, "there are two sides to every story". Yet, we get really attached to our story and sometimes believe it's the only one to be heard.
So how do we connect with others, how do we dedicate our actions to benefit all beings? We become aware, and we remember to try, again and again, every single day. I wish I had a clearer answer to this. There are lots of actions we can take every day to help us connect.
I see you, I hear you, I value you,