Hello and Happy Monday,
Daylight savings time, full moon, and Friday the 13th all in one week. At one point in my life, I worked in a hospital in the Human Resources department and always noticed how much more busy the ER was when one of these events was happening, and here we are with all three.
So much outside of us changing and shifting, for some of us, this is exciting and energizing, and for others, this is stressful and uncomfortable. I've been working on my Spring Clearing and getting my ideas on paper with clarity on how I will cultivate them. It's very easy for me to get swept away with ideas and creativity. This causes me to "be all over the place". I can't pinpoint what should happen first and when I try, I get swept up into another idea. This is a fun cycle of creativity, but if I am looking to actually get something done, this can easily become frustrating.
I know that we may hear things many times before we actually register what is being said. The message, that I've been hearing lately, which I'm sure I have heard before but it hasn't really clicked, is "how do you want XYZ to turn out - what do you want the outcome to be?" For some things, it's really clear, for others I convince myself that I have no idea.
This is where an anchor comes in. I view the anchor this way - the kind of person I want to be. My Instagram handle is "Shantimommie", Shanti (pronounced with a long a) means peace. That is my ultimate goal in life. To be a peaceful being. And right now, a peaceful Mommie. The house I grew up in wasn't very peaceful, there was always a lot of stimuli, I guess that happens in a house with four children. Lots of loud talking, yelling, and commotion. It's not how I wanted my house to be for my children. I created that name, so every time I looked at it, I was reminded what my ultimate goal is. In order for me to have a peaceful safe haven for my children to thrive in, I need to be that person. Shantimommie, peace is my anchor.
This doesn't mean I am peaceful all the time - HA!! I wish it were that simple. This helps me to remember, so when I am feeling the pulls, the ebbs and flows of the creativity, and the ups and downs of sharing children with an ex-partner who is difficult to work with, I can come back to my anchor of what I want the outcome to be. This also doesn't mean because I have created an anchor it absolves me of how I was raised: riding the waves. I agree that riding the current is great sometimes, but for success in my relationships, sometimes I need to pull on that anchor and reel myself in.
What's your anchor? Has it changed? Do you want to create one? Fill me in, I am sincerely curious.
With steady love,